Mclane Church

Coping with People who Beef, Bite, and Bellyache

How to Handle Difficult Relationships in Your Small Group

As kids, it never occurred to us to "work" on any of our relationships. They just happened. And if for any reason they didn't, we jumped ship. No fuss, no muss.

But somewhere along the line, each of us entered the fray of mature relationships-and things got dicey. We learned that some people were more difficult, if not impossible, to get along with. We learned that trusted friends could betray us. Authority figures we admired could snub us. A colleague's constant criticism could hurt us. And even family members with could leave us out of the loop. But we also learned that, unless we wanted to be hermits, we couldn't abandon every relationship that hits a snag. That's the rub with difficult people-we sink or swim together, especially in a small group.


NOTE: For a video resource on how to deal with confrontation and conflict resolution, GroupLife has copies of the ReGroup curriculum.  Disk 2 contains two "extended tips" on how to deal with these issues within the context of your small group.  To borrow a copy of ReGroup, contact us at